Hey y’all, happy February!! Since it is the month of loooovvveee, I thought it would be fun to talk about dating. Maybe some of you even have a date planned for next week 😉 Today we are talking all about first date dos and don’ts. I’m sure everyone has heard horror stories about dates that have gone completely wrong at some point. That’s why I am here to offer some first date advice to help you navigate this nerve-wrecking point in a relationship.
Choosing An Outfit
On a first date, you want to make a good impression. This means dressing the part. You want to choose an outfit that makes you feel confident but that you don’t feel completely uncomfortable in. First dates are already weird enough. You don’t want to have a wardrobe malfunction and make it awkward. Knowing where you are going and what you are doing will help you plan your outfit as well!
Not everyone loves a good ol’ dinner and a movie date. Be willing to try something new. The activities that take place during the date set the one for the whole experience! Choose something that allows you to have fun and feel the most comfortable. If you have any say in the planning, suggest something that allows for conversation as well as an activity. This way, you will feel less obligated to fill the entire date with small talk. Doing the activity first can also serve as an ice breaker. Activities like bowling or mini golf are great options because you can have conversation as you play!
Lets be real ladies, this is always so awkward. I think it’s best to plan to pay. Maybe you think the guy should pay since he asked you out, and I agree. But, offering to pay and allowing him to decline is much less awkward than both of you standing there. If he lets you pay, then you have learned something about your date that may or may not be a deal breaker for you.
Put The Phone Away
You can’t get to know someone very well if your face is glued to a screen the whole time. Try to keep your phone in a pocket or purse during the date. There’s nothing worse than trying to have a conversation with someone who is more into their phone than what you have to say. Don’t be that person
Now that you have broken the ice with a fun activity, what are you going to talk about? Well you can start by checking out these questions beforehand. Having a few questions in mind to fill any awkward silences is always a good idea. You should know what you are looking for in a partner by now. Take some of those traits and turn them into questions to see if you are compatible. Most importantly, try to make it natural. You don’t want to sound like a robot reciting questions repeatedly. Make sure they are questions that need to be elaborated on. This will fill more time and allow you to get to know them better.
Thought you are trying to get to know this person, you don’t want to get too serious too quickly. Try to avoid topics such as politics and exes.
Don’t Be Late
My entire life I have been extremely punctual. To the point where I get anxiety if I am not a few minutes early. Now this might seem extreme, but the first date is all about impressions. What does being late say about you? Let’s not find out 🙂
Alright guys that’s it! Most of all, remember to have fun. Even if your date isn’t who you are looking for, use it as a learning experience. All of these tips are great, but most of all you’re looking for compatibility. Just be yourself and you’ll know when you’ve found it! I would love to hear some first date stories!! Do you have any horror stories or additional tips? Let me know in the comments below!